Daydreaming!

Please watch this video before reading the rest of this post.

Imagination: Tom Wallisch

A friend shared this video with me recently and it sparked a discussion on daydreaming and how we would daydream in school about skiing, motorcycles and other activities that we'd rather be doing.  The discussion led to how many adults stop daydreaming or at least limit their daydream "adventures".  

Personally, I still daydream often, probably during times when I shouldn't be.  I believe daydreams help me center myself and move towards what I'd rather be doing than what I'm currently doing.

My suggestion is to get back into the habit of daydreaming, if you've not done it in a while.  If you're still a daydreamer, keep doing it!  

Here's another video that was most likely sparked by the "kid inside".

Danny MacAskill's Imaginate

Gerald Trees

Musings and Observations of an Adventurous Life Seeker

Good Friends

This weeks post is going to be a short one, mainly because I'm heading out for a couple of days and my computer isn't coming with me.

While part of this trip is centred around business, a good part of this trip will be spent with friends.  The older I get, the more I'm understanding the importance of good friends.  People who you enjoy being around and who will be there for you no matter what.

With that in mind, here are a few pictures of a group of guys I consider brothers.

Gerald Trees

Musings and Observations of an Adventurous Life Seeker

I'm Back!!!

It's been quite a while since I've last written something for this blog.  Nine months and a few days to be more exact.  Anyway, I will be writing something once a week from here on and I trust my readers will find my words helpful and at the very least, amusing.

The past nine months have been filled with more than a few adventures and some insightful and at times sobering lessons.

Perhaps the most sobering lesson came when I was in Peru with a group by the name of IRIS Mundial, providing eye care to a community that has limited access to health care, especially eye care.  To put the need into perspective, the team saw over 2,000 people in the span of 5 days, working 10 to 12 hours each day.  There were people who'd arrive at 5:00 AM after walking or taking a bus from a remote village to wait their turn to be seen.  For some, that wait was 10 to 12 hours.  When I'd see one of these people, they were not upset that they'd waited hours to be seen, sitting outside the makeshift clinic in the hot Peruvian sun.  Everyone, to a person, were extremely grateful that we were there.

Waiting patiently to be seen by doctor

I have two short stories from my time in Peru.

The first is a lady who gave me a big hug after her exam, with tears in her eyes telling me "¡Dios te envió a ayudarme!" or "God sent you to help me".  She'd not been able to see clearly enough to read for some time and simply needed a pair of reading glasses.  I found this very eye opening and sobering.

The second is a lady who I saw, after I examined her 13 year-old son.  I asked her "¿ese es tu hijo?", or "is that your son".  Her response was "Sí, él me vuelve loco".  Translation, "yes, he drives me crazy".  With that, I burst out laughing, realizing teenagers are the same everywhere.

With this in mind, here are a few of my musings and observations from my time in Peru.

• Patients is something we all could have more of.  Being impatient will not make things better or get us were we want to go any faster so relax and enjoy yourself.
• Where ever you travel, you may be the only glimpse someone will have of your country, state (province) or town so be on your best behaviour and be curious about the place your visiting.  Both you and those you meet will be better for it.
• What may seem trivial to you, will mean the world to someone else.  In other words a little help and kindness goes further than you imagine it will.
• Look for similarities instead of differences in others.  You'll be surprised at how many similarities there are.

My new friend and fellow motorcyclist, José.

Here is a link to the summary of the IRIS Mundial Peru mission.  2017 Mission Caneta, Peru

Gerald Trees

Musings and Observations of an Adventurous Life Seeker

News "Blackout" By Choice - The Ultimate Vacation

I've just returned from a Spring trip to Baja, Mexico.  Myself and 5 friends rode our motorcycles to San Jose del Cabo in November of 2016 and it was time to bring them out, along with getting some much needed sun and time away from the office.

The Baja is a great place for a vacation if you like desert, cactus, sand, beautiful beaches with water to match, warm, friendly people and want to get away from the news of the world.  You see, outside of the more populated areas, there is limited connectivity to the outside world.

On this trip I made the decision to stay away from TV and chose not to look at the news from home or anywhere else for that matter when I could get online.  It was actually easier than I thought to "shut off" the news.

The 10 days in Mexico were relaxing, visiting with my friends, making new ones, eating way too much excellent food and seeing sights that were new.  I found that I wasn't missing anything by not knowing what was happening in North America politics or other news outside of what the locals were telling us about their part of the world.

Good friends!

I've been back for 3 days and I tried to watch the news my first day back and found my stress level going up so I turned it off.  I'm not burring my head in the proverbial sand, however I'm realizing more and more that much of what we're being fed is out of my control.  So, for the next few months I'm going to continue on my news blackout and focus on what's happening in my local world.

I challenge you to take your own News Blackout holiday and see what happens.  I'd be interested to hear how it goes.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Happy New Year - A Little Late

The first full week of 2017 is in the history books and week number 2 is in full swing.

For some, the new year is a time to start over, resolutions have been made and likely already broken.

For others, January 1st is simply another day, other than a welcomed day off.  Nothing new planned and no resolutions made.

There is a group of people, however,  who view the new year as another phase in their life.  Their 2016 was mapped out with specific goal.s  Personal goals and professional / economic goals.  The beginning of the new year is spent reflecting on the prior year.  Where they fell short of their goals and what needs to be done to get back on track.  Their successes, celebrating them, learning from them and most importantly, gaining energy from them.  These individuals live their lives with a purpose, seldom complaining about politics or outside influences.  Instead they change what they can and adapt to what they cannot change.  Constantly moving forward with purpose and with a specific goal.

Often times people in this group are viewed as "Lucky", "Smart", "Advantaged", "Privileged", in other words, they have something that the rest of society doesn't have.  In reality, members of this group have made the decision to control the direction their life will take and have set, purposeful goals they wish to achieve.  In short, they live with purpose, their purpose.

Living with purpose will be a challenge.  You'll have to be dedicated to controlling your own life and outcomes.  There will be events out of your control that will cause you to alter your course and may even block the path your on.  It will seem "unfair" when this happens and many will use a lot of energy worrying and complaining.  Someone living with purpose will choose to use their energy to take a different path.  A path that may at first look like it's moving away from their goal to those on the "outside".  The key here is CHOICE.

The hardest part of living with a purpose is deciding on what you want.  The more focused, the better.  The second hardest part is making a plan to achieve what you want and then taking action daily until your goal is achieved.  Yes, you'll likely have to make changes in your daily routine, saying NO to things you really don't want to do and realizing that a few of those people around you will be "unsettled" by the changes you'll be going through.  (See Expect Resistance From Those Around You).

To gain confidence, start with something small that you've always wanted to do.  It could be reading a book that you've wanted to read for sometime or participating in a 10k run.  Pick your goal and plan what you must do every day to reach that goal.  The final step is scheduling the time each day to work toward your goal and being very "stingy" with that time.

What destination have you chosen for 2017?

All my best in 2017 and I trust you'll reach the goals you've set for yourself.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

2016 Is Almost Over So What Happens Next?

"We but mirror the world.  All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body.  If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change.  As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.  This is the divine mystery supreme.  A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness.  We need not wait to see what others do." - Mahatma Gandhi

We're at the end of 2016 today and quite a lot has happened in the world in the past 364 days.  The big questions I'd like to ask is what happens next?  

The quote from Mahatma Gandhi is powerful and says that what happens next is entirely up to us as individuals.  Of course there will be circumstances and situations that come along that will have an effect on us that is out of our control.  The control that we do have is how we chose to deal with them.  In other words, we have the ability to change and adapt if we choose to do so.  

That choice and the belief that we can change is difficult, especially at first.  The reward is a feeling of piece and empowerment that will power your actions.  That I can guarantee.

Heading into 2017, please read and reread the words of Gandhi and put them to use.  It will help make 2017 a great year.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

Tonight is Christmas Eve and for many it's a time that's being spent with family or friends or preparing for Christmas Day, also with family or friends.

For others it's a time of sadness, remembering love ones lost or spending time alone, having no one to share the holidays with.

Still others do not celebrate this time of year and life continues on, leading to the end of the year and preparing for 2017.

For me, this time of year is one where my children and grandchild will be home, extra time will be spent with good friends and greetings and reminiscing will be done with friends and family who live far away.  Indeed there will be thoughts and feelings for those who are no longer here, knowing that they will be a part of me for the rest of my life.

For those who celebrate Merry Christmas, Merry Christmas!

For those who don't, I wish you all the best in the remaining days of 2016!

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas Baby!

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Small Town Life

In November of 2016 I had the pleasure of visiting a small west coast town on the Baja peninsula which included spending the night in one of the two motels in the town.

The town itself looked old, with small houses, small yards and mostly dirt streets.  There was a small chapel down one of the side streets and small fishing boats in various states of repair on the sides of the road.  The centre piece of the town was the public park.  It was clean, had all the facilities that a small town would need, including a skate park, and it was full of kids and their families enjoying their evening.

The evening was filled with good food from the motel restaurant, which stayed open later than usual to accommodate our group of 7 and we were entertained by the family who managed the motel as they had already invited friends over to play guitars and sing.  Even though we were strangers, we became part of their "family" for the evening.

Super moon rising.  It's amazing how the stars and moon look without any light pollution.

The next morning, I took a walk through the town.  I saw people getting ready for their day, tidying up house fronts, kids heading out the door for school and adults heading out to work.  The locals were warm and it became a game to see who would say "good morning" first.

I walked by a local elementary school where kids were laughing and playing in the school yard under the supervision and participation of their teacher.  Some kids were still walking to school under the supervision of a parent and a few were on bicycles.  I even saw a couple of kids on skateboards, even though there were only a few cement sidewalks to cruise down.

This small town reminds me of what many people are looking for in my home country of the United States and in my adopted country of Canada and yet this small town is in Mexico.

The people of San Juanico, on the west coast of the Baja peninsula have very little in material goods compared to most north american towns.  They're isolated for the most part and their electricity comes from solar, gas / diesel generators and a small wind farm.  The town is without power for several hours during the day and at night in order to conserve what they generate.  Gas is trucked in from the closest large town, which is about 2 hours away,  and sold by the jug at twice the amount as the average gas station.  In other words the people of San Juanico have much to complain about and yet for the most part they don't.

Sure the people want better economics for their town and options for their children, like the rest of the us want for our towns.  In that we're the same.  The one resource San Juanico has that has put the town "on the map" is waves.  The bay generates some spectacular surfing waves that have caught the attention of the surfing community.  The challenge for the community, according to a number of people we met, is to balance growth with maintaining their sense of community.

San Juanico is one of the most peaceful places I've stayed and it's amazing how quiet it is when there is no electricity.  The sound of the waves crashing on the shore through the open windows of my room along with a light breeze was relaxing.

"Home" for the night

For all my north american friends who would like to see what quality small town life is like, cross the border into Mexico and visit a small town.  You'll find warm, friendly people who are very proud of their community and with a smile you'll be welcomed.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

November 8, 2016

Tomorrow it begins.

After more than 18 months of campaigning, "mud slinging", name calling and generally childish behaviour, my home country of the United States will choose a new president.  The sad part is, both candidates have said very little on what their plan is for the next 4 years and spent more time trying to convince the undecided voters why the other person is a poor choice for president.  Perhaps substance isn't important in this "Reality TV" age...

Anyway, what started out as an entertaining process into how the Republican and Democratic parties work, including watching the "best" the Republican party could muster be taken down by a loudmouth in the form of Donald Trump and a highly skewed Democratic party process that favoured Hillary Clinton almost be derailed by Bernie Sanders, has drug on far too long.

Who ever wins tomorrow has their work cut out for them as my home country is as divided as I've ever seen it.  The "Melting Pot" has turned into regions of division, special interest groups who feel that there way is the only way and if you disagree then you're not "American" and are part of the problem.

I see "religion" shunning people who live a lifestyle they disagree with even though the bible says to do otherwise.

I see hate escalating when it comes to race.  I find this unsettling, scary and I don't see how this will be "fixed" any time soon.  Politics won't fix any of this and only a miraculous change of heart will.

I see differences being a source of division instead of a source of strength.

I see fear being spread as a way to control peoples thoughts and actions as it's more effective and faster than education and coming up with a solid plan for the future.

Mostly, I see people unwilling to work together for a common good.

In 1858 Abraham Lincoln delivered a speech after being selected by the Illinois Republican Party to be their candidate for the US Senate.  In that speech he spoke of a House Divided, which was in reference to the states being a mix of free and slave states.  His contention, which was considered radical at that time, was that at some point this division would end because a "house divided against itself cannot stand".  Mr. Lincoln, in this speech, did not feel the house (Union) would fall but rather the division would end somehow.

The United States is once again a House Divided and I believe that the division will end one way or another.  The question is, what will the House look like.  That will depend greatly on the will of the people and to some degree the person chosen to lead the country.

May God bless who ever is chosen and give them wisdom that has yet to be seen to bring the House together.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Gasoline, Water and Food

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I'm heading to Baja California, Mexico in a few days with friends and we'll be spending 12 days riding our motorcycles from the California border to Cabo San Lucas.  Most of the places well be riding has gasoline, food and water available.  However we will be riding in some off road sections where gas will be in short supply and if something goes wrong, having food and water will be important.  We've planned for this by packing protein bars and other snack foods.  Each of us will carry 2.5 litres of water in a hydropack and we'll also carry more on the motorcycles.  We'll also carry extra gasoline for those long sections where gas may or may not be available.  Along with the necessary items already mentioned, we'll be carrying spare parts and tools, just in case...

Gas from a roadside vender is common in some countries and not always available

Gasoline, Water and Food are three physical and consumable items that a large number of the world's population take for granted on a daily basis.  Sure, we'll complain about the price of these necessities but we know they're readily available at the local store.

What happens when Gasoline, Water and Food are not readily available?

If you think this couldn't happen to you, take a look at what's happening in Italy today following the countries 2nd large earthquake this year.  Italy is a developed country and yet it will take days or weeks before supplies to the effected area will be restored.

I'm sure many will read this and think "I'm OK".  Please think again!

If you live on or near an earthquake zone, you could be without these three items for days, even if your area isn't directly effected.  Unlike a hurricane, earthquakes come without prior warning so quickly preparing or evacuating isn't an option.

Hurricanes can be monitored and tracked, giving people time to prepare and evacuate.  Usually.  Often it's those who are not near the full impact of the storm who will suffer.  Heavy rain, power outages and impassible roads could happen, cutting off supplies.

I'm not trying to scare anyone, however I am asking that you think about what you'd do if you didn't have access to Gasoline, Water and Food.

Now that you've done that, make a plan that will supply yourself and your family in the event something goes wrong.  It's quite easy to do.

• Make sure your car is full of gasoline (diesel if that's what your car takes).
• Store enough food to keep you and your family fed for at least a week.  Non-perishable foods are the best.  Store food for your pets, if you have them.
• Buy 2 or 3 large water cooler jugs of water to store with the food.
• Buy water purification tablets and put them in your kit.  They're available at most camping and outdoor gear stores.
• Have flashlights and candles in your kit, along with fresh batteries.  Make sure the batteries are stored separately and not in the flashlights, they will corrode if you keep them in the devices.
• Along with the battery powered flashlights, have a couple of rechargeable flashlights and keep them charged.  If all else fails, you'll be able to charge the flashlights and other electronic devices with your car.  
• Buy an AM / FM band radio that runs on batteries.  This is "old school" but it works and it will help give you information if you're cut off from the rest of civilization.
• Extra clothes and blankets.
• A well stocked first aid kit, which can be purchased at Walmart and most outdoor / camping supply stores.
• Check your kit regularly and change out anything that's close to expiring and refresh the batteries.

Planning for the unexpected makes living in the present more enjoyable.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Perception, Reality and Politics

I've done my best to stay out of the political mess that is the Presidential race in my home country of the USA.

I've sat back and watched the process over the past year with a large dose of cynicism, a fascination at how the actions of one of the candidates (pick one) effects "the people" directly and through the media.

I've listened to "talking heads" attempt to look intelligent in their analysis of the process and in defence of their chosen "champion".

I've seen friends of my youth take sides on social media, posting MEMS, videos and "secret" information that puts down the candidate they don't want to win in rather "unflattering" ways as "proof" that their candidate would be better.

I've been asked countless times by my Canadian friends "what's going on in your home country?" while expressing fear about what will happen after the election.  I'm thinking if Canadians are worried, the rest of the world likely is too.

 My fellow Americans we are being manipulated!

Anytime a campaign comes down to who's the least offensive, the one who's told the fewest lies and the one who's past "sins" are more acceptable, there is a problem.  Instead of focusing on what they will do for the country, both candidates and their supporters are spending all their time focusing on what the other candidate has done wrong in the past and why they're "unfit" for our nations highest position.

The perception is that they will change the "system" to help the average American.

The reality is that both have used the system to get where they are today and there is little evidence to show that will change in the future.

The perception that is being painted by both candidates is the country needs their expertise and help to strengthen America.

The reality is the power to change lies within the people of the USA and what is needed is a true leader.

The perception is that a leader is one who leads by example.

The reality is a leader is one who motivates others to rise up and meet or exceed their own expectations.

The perception is that a change or addition of laws will make things better.

The reality is that it will take individual action on the part of each one of us to make things better.

I don't have answers to the problems that exist in the world today, however I do know that my home country is far better than what the two candidates in this current presidential race represent.    Let's face it, we're stuck with the winner for the next 4 years and I hope that this "lesson" will pave the way for a process whereby the true leaders of our country will stand up and pave a way to bring the country's citizens together instead of dividing us.

Now for the "real" Talking Heads - Slippery People

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Is it November yet?

I know it's only the end of September and October begins tomorrow, however I want November to get here as fast as possible for two reasons.

The first reason is a return trip to Baja with some good friends for two weeks of playing in the dirt, sand, silt and sun, with a few beach days thrown in.

Baja is one of those magical places where time has little meaning, unless it siesta time.

"Idiot" laws don't exist so there are few idiots to be found.

The "social" network is what takes place at the local cantina, which is usually a brick structure with a corrugated, rusted, metal roof.  If you're in the cantina, your part of the network.

The food of the gods, namely street tacos, can be found everywhere.  The further outside the tourist areas the better they taste.

And, if you're into anything that involves playing in the dirt, hiking, biking, motorcycling or 4X4ing, Baja is a huge playground!

The other reason is the US elections!  It's about time this third rate circus act comes to an end.  I'm at the point where I really don't care who wins as both candidates and their cronies have done a fabulous job of further dividing the country and it's time to try and bring the country back together, which will be a daunting task regardless of who wins.

Both sides have taken mud slinging, back stabbing, closet hunting for skeletons and fear mongering to a new level.  This has been further amplified by CNN, Fox, MSNBC, etc... and their endless lineup of talking heads who's "expertise" will fade away the instant a winner is announced.

I'll be leaving for Mexico the day after the election so it will be an interesting and exciting time.



Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

15 Years Later...

Looking down on the South Pool from the observation deck in One World Trade Center

It's hard to believe that 15 years ago a group of terrorists hijacked four passenger jets and flew one into the North Tower of the World Trade Center, another into the South Tower of the World Trade Center, one into the Pentagon.  The 4th plane crashed into a field in Pennsylvania after the passengers and pilots fought back, preventing this plane from reaching it's target.

How did 15 years go by so quickly?

In the past 15 years a lot has happened.  My children who were 12, 10 and 8 at the time of the attack, have grown and have lives of their own.

I'm now a grandparent.

A number of friends and family have passed away.

Adventures have been had and injuries incurred.

My view of the world has changed in that I've chosen to look for the good in the world, which is easy to find.

I've watched less news mainly because evil and tragedy sells so that's what the news outlets broadcast the most.  Evil and tragedy do exists, however I believe that good exists in a greater abundance.

I've learned people are resilient, especially if they have the mindset to take control of their life regardless of what happened in the past.  This, I've learned, isn't easy.

I still remember, vividly I might add, watching CNN as the 2nd plane hit the South Tower and trying to explain to my 8 year old son why someone could do this.

I remember visiting New York for the first time last September, days before the 14th anniversary, and viewing into the pools that outline where the towers stood, watching the water fall deep into the ground while reading the names of those who died that day.  The emotion and reverence of that place is difficult to describe.

Ladder and Engine Company 10 were the closest to the World Trade Center and one of the first to respond following the attack.  They lost 6 members that day.

Resilience sometimes means rebuilding

I would like you to always remember what took place on September 11, 2001, not in anger, but in reverence for those who lost their lives and for those who gave their lives to save as many of their fellow human beings as they could.  

Remember 9/11 as a reason make the world around you, in your own neighbourhood first, a better place.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Things To Know Before Moving To Canada from the USA

It's come to my attention that more than a few people have indicated they'd move to Canada after the November Presidential election.  Now that the elections is over and President Trump has been sworn in, the interest in Canada has grown.

I made a career decision to move to Canada 26 years ago and Canada is my home.  With that in mind, here are 10 things you should know if you're planning on making the move.

• The Canada health system is what people in the USA would call "Socialized".  It has it's issues, however it works well overall.
• Leave your guns at home.  Canada has gun laws that will likely leave most of my fellow Americans wondering how Canadians survive.  We do have guns in Canada as hunting is part of Canada's history and tradition, however the laws are specific on what you can own.
• Sports are similar, however Hockey and soccer are the nations most popular sports.  Canadians do play football, however you'll need to adjust to a larger end zone and 3 downs.  Fortunately US television is available, including sports.
• Politics are quite different in Canada.  Thankfully elections are short and sweet.  The minimum length of a campaign is 36 days after an election is called and because campaign spending is strictly limited, most election campaigns hold to the 36 days.  A federal election must take place every 4 years, however it can be called earlier if the Prime Minister chooses.  Also, the political system is based on the parliamentary system and is considered a constitutional monarchy.  Suffice it to say, it's different than what you're use to.
• Canada is as much of a "melting pot" as the USA, perhaps even more.
• If you think gas prices are high in the USA, you'll be in for sticker shock once you get to Canada.  That "nice" looking price you see at a Canadian gas station is for 1 litre of gas, which is slightly more than 1/4 of a gallon.
• Speaking of litres, Canada uses the metric system.  When you see the speed limit is 100, remember that's kph.  60 mph in US terms.
• One of the best things about Canada is the currency.  I'm not talking about it's value, but it's colour.  $5.00 is light blue, $10.00 is dark blue, $20.00 is greenish and $50.00 is redish.  Canada has a $1.00 coin called the Loonie and a $2.00 coin called the Toonie.  Canada recently discontinued the Canadian penny.  The bottom line here is when you look in your wallet, you have a good idea of how much you have based on the colour.
• Contrary to popular belief, Canadians live in houses, not igloos.
• Finally, Canada is a bilingual country.  You'll see English and French on everything you buy in the store.  You'll also find English is a little different as well, with "Eh" and "Hey" being used a lot.  

BONUS:  If you do choose to "escape" to Canada following the outcome of the November election, you'll get to file taxes in Canada and the USA.  The USA is one of only a few countries that require citizens to file taxes regardless of where they live or work.

Enjoying a Canadian summer

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Lessons From a Toddler - Part 2

It's amazing how much toddlers develop and change in 2 months.  Here are a few more lessons that I've learned (re-learned) since my last entry.

1. No matter how nice the shoes, bare feet are the best.
2. Outside is better than inside.
3. Sand is an essential "mineral".
4. Learning is more about persistence than intelligence.
5. Sometimes self imposed quiet time is necessary.
6. If you want something, ask.  If that doesn't work go get it anyway.
7. Celebrate your own accomplishments.  Climbing into grandpa's chair is a big deal...
8. If you get bored with something, move on.  You can always come back.
9. Cheesecake is the food of the gods!
10. No matter how much is going on or how many things need doing, naps are still important.

More lessons to come.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

The positive side of facebook

Social media and facebook in particular has been a part of society for a decade, at least.  Social media is now part of the daily existence for most of us.  The media has become a way for us to share with friends, family and the world parts, if not all of what goes on in our lives and our opinions on everything from politics to what our favorite restaurant is.

Over the years more than a lot has been written about the negatives of social media, with facebook being one of the popular targets.  Everything from people waisting time to airing their "dirty laundry" to the world.  In typical media fashion, little is written about the positive side of social media, including facebook, and yet there is a positive side and in my opinion a big one.

I first joined facebook in 2007, when my daughter was in her first year of university and while I probably spend too much time "browsing", I've also reconnected with childhood friends, classmates and I have made new friends that over time I've had the pleasure of meeting in person.

A former teacher and good friend who "convinced" me to join him on an adventure in Peru.  We reconnected thanks to facebook.

Recently I met someone who I'd been "friends" with since 2010 when we were on the opposite sides of a debate about Harley Davidson Motorcycles shutting down Buel Motorcycles.  For those who spend too much time riding, dreaming and reading motorcycles, you'll understand.  For those who don't, you'll have to imagine it in political terms, only more important.

Anyway, over the years Graham and I have found that we have more than a few things in common besides motorcycles and it was only a matter of time before we'd have the opportunity to meet in person.  The only significant issue was distance as I live in Canada and he's from Australia.  Earlier this year he made a career move to the US and was on holidays in Victoria, a couple of hours from where I live, earlier this week.

It was a pleasure to visit and have some food and drink with someone who I'd only known from cyber space.

Friends finally meet in person.

While the web and cyber space has a dark side and can involve hours of uselessness, it does have a positive side, if you choose to look for it and use it.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Greed, Fear, Curiosity and Scams

My email spam filter picks up at least one "attempt" my email scammers to relieve me of my money each day.  I'm sure most of you find the same thing happening at least once and a while.  These scammers play on three powerful human emotions, Greed, Fear and Curiosity.

In the Greed category the most common attempts either involve winning a bazillion dollars in a lottery that I've never entered or helping a Nigerian businessman set up shop in my country by helping him bring in his gazillion dollars in exchange for a bazillion dollars.  All I need to do to claim my fortune is send money and all my banking information, including password.

In the Fear category, you have the phone call from a Microsoft "technician" telling you that your computer is "infected" and sent them a warning.  Of course they can help you out and fix the problem but they need information to "verify" who you are.  Of course that information involved either banking or credit card information.  There's also a "fee" for their service.  Personally I love to talk to these characters as I own an Apple Mac and they get quite frustrated and occasionally angry when I attempt to convince them that I don't have Windows.  Waisting their time is the best best payback.

Another Fear related one involves a phone call or email from your countries tax agency telling you that either you or your legal representative must call immediately or they will begin some form of legal action.   In this case you own taxes and must pay immediately to avoid legal action.

Both of the above are happening more all the time as they have a good chance of success.  The typical person really doesn't understand how computers and the net work and have a fear of being "hacked".  Most of us also have a fear of the "Tax Man" the legal system and will do almost anything to avoid both.

In the Curiosity category, which is relatively new as scams go, you'll receive an email informing you that FedEx or UPS attempted to deliver a package and that it will be sent back unless you set up a delivery time.  Information on your package can be found in the attachment included in the email.  Well you have a package and it's a mystery because you weren't expecting a package so the urge to click on the attachment to find out what it is strong.  Unfortunately the attachment is usually a malicious program designed to take your computer "hostage", including all you data, and it will be released for a fee.  Simple, subtle and unfortunately effective.

One of my favorite scams actually happened to me this week.  At least the attempt was made.  I recently listed one of my motorcycles for sale on a Canada wide listing website and the next morning I received a text form someone wondering if it was still available.  They wanted to buy it "immediately" if it still was and the included their email.  Red Flag #1.

I noticed the area code of the text was unfamiliar and a quick search indicated that it likely originated from the Boston area, a different country and on the other side of the continent.  Red Flag #2.

I did reply to his email address and told him my motorcycle was still available and that I was aware he wasn't from British Columbia.  He replied with an offer that was $800.00 more then what I was asking and that one of his "agents" would be arranging shipping and payment. Red Flag #3.

In this type of scam, the offer of more money is the "hook" and if you take the hook you'll either lose your item or be asked to pay for shipping up front and what you pay will be added to the sale price of the item.  Either way you'll lose something.  My reply to his offer was "That's an interesting offer.  I'm surprised you've not been able to find a similar motorcycle near you for a similar price."  So far I've not received another email.

I still have it and my money.  By the way it's still for sale...

The "moral" here is to be curious about everything and avoid giving in to Greed, Fear and in the case of Curiosity be aware and avoid being "played".

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

"Perfect" Kills Adventure - And Other Things

Wanting things to be "Perfect" is really a fear of failing. 

You can either play it safe and do nothing...

or take a chance and find something unexpected.

A few years ago I asked a friend if they could go anywhere they wished for a vacation and do anything they wanted, where would it be and what would they do?

My friend gave me an answer that went something like this.  "I'm unable to answer that because I need to know what the weather would be, how much it would cost and if the activities I want to do are even available when I'm there."

So I added another "parameter" to my question in that "Let's assume that the weather would be to your liking, money isn't an issue and what you want to do is available."

My friends response was "you can't guarantee that things will be perfect so why bother."

I one respect my friend was right, if you're trying to find the "perfect" time to do something or waiting for the "perfect" weather to go somewhere or any other stipulations that must be "perfect", I can guarantee that will never happen.

"Perfect" is a concept that kills dreams, plans and adventures.  Our society has drilled into us that there's no point in doing something if something bad may happen or unless there is a guarantee of success.  This has happened because failure in anything is looked on as a bad thing.  This is one BIG reason why so few people achieve the goals and dreams they had when they were young.

Without getting too caught up in issues of society, the best way to break out of the need for something to be "perfect" is to simply get on with it.  Pick something you want to do, something you want to learn or some place you want to go and do it!

• Start - make a basic plan and get going.
• You will have setbacks - learn from them.
• You may have to "sacrifice" to make it happen - it'll be worth it.
• Your plan may have to be altered along the way - that's were the real fun takes place.
• At the end you'll feel a great sense of accomplishment - the unexpected is better then perfection.

Forget "Perfect" and get on with life!

Plans that take an unexpected change of direction are often the most memorable

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Time Is Short So Get On Living!

Last week I received news that a friend from my youth had passed away after a 2 year battle with cancer.  We'd not seen each other since college days, more then 30 years, and yet through the power of letters and Facebook we kept in touch.  We connected with each other more after her diagnosis and I got a small glimps into her vallient fight.

In the past two years I've lost no less then 4 friends due to either heart attack or cancer and each time it jolts me into the reality that I need to get on with living and doing the things that are important instead of things that are "easy".  

In other words, it's time to get on finishing the "bucket list" and stay connected with family and friends on a regular basis.

Rest In Peace Marci and my God give your family, especially your sons, comfort and peace.

Gerald Trees

Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker

Can't!

A testament to those who chose to avoid using or hearing "Can't"

The words "can't" and "cannot" are powerful and deceiving.  Personally, I've been working on eliminating them from my daily use and It's been impressive what a difference that makes.

"Can't" and "cannot" are often code words for "I don't want to", "I don't believe I can", "I'm unable to so how can you possibly do it", or any other combination of barrier settings that the brain hears and immediately begins to construct walls to block out any chance of change.

By eliminating the words "can't" and "cannot", or at least by working on it, I'm discovering that if a truly don't want to do something and coming out and saying "I don't want to", my stress level has gone down.  By replacing "can't" or "cannot" with I can for things I want to do, even though I'm unsure of my ability to do it, I'm finding success.  It's still a work in progress.

Along with the success, I've found that I need to be aware of what I'm saying, especially to myself, and this has helped me reduce other forms of negative "self talk" along the way.

The best advice I can give is to watch carefully what you say to yourself and to others.  "Casual" words are powerful so pay attention.

Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker