A testament to those who chose to avoid using or hearing "Can't"
The words "can't" and "cannot" are powerful and deceiving. Personally, I've been working on eliminating them from my daily use and It's been impressive what a difference that makes.
"Can't" and "cannot" are often code words for "I don't want to", "I don't believe I can", "I'm unable to so how can you possibly do it", or any other combination of barrier settings that the brain hears and immediately begins to construct walls to block out any chance of change.
By eliminating the words "can't" and "cannot", or at least by working on it, I'm discovering that if a truly don't want to do something and coming out and saying "I don't want to", my stress level has gone down. By replacing "can't" or "cannot" with I can for things I want to do, even though I'm unsure of my ability to do it, I'm finding success. It's still a work in progress.
Along with the success, I've found that I need to be aware of what I'm saying, especially to myself, and this has helped me reduce other forms of negative "self talk" along the way.
The best advice I can give is to watch carefully what you say to yourself and to others. "Casual" words are powerful so pay attention.
Gerald Trees
Musings And Observations Of An Adventurous Life Seeker
